A Few Detours

I think it was last week I told you I was looking forward to heading to Texas for treatment ideas. I may have been doing a bit of wishful thinking…

David and I went to the airport Monday to find our flight delayed 3x over. I was in bad need of a Xanax so we sat in the restaurant waiting for our newly scheduled 8:15pm flight. The moment I heard the word “cancelled” my head dropped in tears. Talk about embarrassing. Talk about painful. You know crying uses a ton of muscles.

Our appt in TX was at 9:30 am. We decided to drive to Indi to get the earliest flight so we didn’t have to cancel. I’m so excited to begin the next phase of this new life. Around 3am I was doubled over in tears. Never, ever have I felt so much pain. Ever. David frantically drove me to ER and I’ve been here ever since. I got an abscess removed this morning which they believe was causing much of the pain. We’ll see.

Oh, but I gotta tell you… If you’ve never had an abscess drained from your stomache it is so cool. Seriously, I was in total amazement and the Dr surely thought I was nuts with all my question. It was just a cool experience.

Okay and that’s my life for now. I’ve gotten quite a few notes asking exactly what I have. It’s Stage 3c Ovarian Cancer. I so badly wanna post a pic of me and how I found out. Give me a few days to build up the courage.

PS- Angela Burnett, I totally know you. And I even remember your mom was looking to buy a cottage up near Petoskey.

Lastly, I’m so dying to get home to show you my fave sneak peaks. It’s pure love!


Kathy Hoy - July 15, 2013 - 1:56 pm

Hang in there Denise!! Lots of mommas & their children are praying for you!!! Try to meditate and feel those when you are in bed and are in need of comforting. For I believe that God hears the children’s prayers first. Surround yourself in those healing prayers and concentrate on them =)
Praying for your recovery, Lord hear our Prayers.

Kim - July 15, 2013 - 9:04 am

Denise, you are so brave. My family and I will continue to pray for you.

Donna Neverla - July 14, 2013 - 6:31 am

Attitude and Prayer. The two best healing forces. My husband is a stage 4 cancer survivor of 10 years. We credit first and foremost GOD and a close second his attitude. In the doctors office when we heard ” it is cancerβ€œ his first words were “ok Doc what are we going to do about this”” His calm realization that God and a wonderful medical team working together with his positive attitude was the key to beating this thing. K My simple prayer during the entire process was Good help our family to handle whatever your plan is for us and give us peace. Keep praying and believing!

Phyllis L Elliott - July 13, 2013 - 6:17 pm

Denise or Nece , which is what I remember you being called ! Jason And Clint are my sons and you were in school with one or both ( sorry ! LOL ) I just know you can beat this and will ! Prayers for daily stamina and for God’s Blessings ! <3

Heather D. - July 13, 2013 - 1:27 pm

You are so strong and brave to bare all and share with us what you’re going through. I’m praying for you and your family and I know your strength and determination will keep you on top and you will ride this wave back to shore. Hugs to you Denise!

kathy roberts - July 13, 2013 - 9:15 am

dear denise please take the word dying out of your vocabulary there is power in our words. the world was created with Gods words and we are made in His image. please speak words of life and not death. been through cancer and walking in great health today. God bless praying for you Kathy in AL

Lisa Kelly - July 13, 2013 - 3:08 am

Bless you , your amazing strong talented gifted loving woman & The Lord has amazing plans for you!! Stay strong ! Hugs from the Kelly’s !

Ami Watkins Dionne - July 12, 2013 - 10:57 pm

Dear Denise, I had no idea that this amazing company was your creation. My sweet baby girl just arrived a few months back and I’m so excited to buy girl clothes. I remember you as being so creative in high school and am happy to see your success. I am sad that you are dealing with this awful disease and will keep you in my thoughts. Stay strong!

Elisabeth R - July 12, 2013 - 10:24 pm

Good thoughts & Hugs Denise <3

Angela Burnett - July 12, 2013 - 10:10 pm

Denise, you remember me!! My heart seriously just skipped a beat of two!! Funny you mentioned Petosky…that I’d where I’m visiting right now! In fact, today I was in town walking with my daughter, wearing of course Matilda Jane, and another mother and daughter stopped us wearing the exact same outfits! Your giant heart is everywhere! Thank you for your little side note, it made my day! I hope to see you again! Keep your chin up, and find strength from all of us who love you and your passion.
Angela Burnett

Meredith Blair - July 12, 2013 - 9:46 pm

I am sending positive thoughts your way. My sister in law is fighting leukemia and my friend has stage 3 ovarian. I’m amazed daily by their courage and grace.

Mimi Breedlove - July 12, 2013 - 9:39 pm

Bless you!! Know that you are in my prayer. It’s always the valleys where you are closest to God. Know He is with you & He is control!!! Love & Peace for you

Iris n. - July 12, 2013 - 7:01 pm

Hope you are feeling better!!! <3

Beth - July 12, 2013 - 6:00 pm

I have an incurable illness too. Some days I am in denial too. I think it helps us get through the toughest days. Nobody can really understand unless they have been there. My aunt had surgery recently to have most of the ovarian cancer removed…..then she went on to chemo. We sat & talked about what being sick feels like. It was good & freeing to talk to her. I hope you can find someone to talk to that understands too. I pray that God will give you strength, peace, & comfort. Nobody should have to go through this.

Tanya, Emily and Marie - July 12, 2013 - 5:36 pm

I am constantly thinking about you. How can I not when every time I turn the corner there is a sweet little girl wearing Matilda Jane clothes. I even chased down a woman wearing the cutest skirt ever and asked her wear she got it. Guess what she said? Yup! She said, “Matilda Jane!” Girl-look what you have accomplished over the years. You are strong and a determined woman. Let that strength and determination get you through this. We love you and we send our best wishes to you and your family.

Sybil B. Hayden - July 12, 2013 - 3:22 pm

Thank you for being real Sam. Its what I’ve always loved about Matilda Jane. Its encouraging to hear how your all doing. We love you all and your in our hearts and prayers!

Kari Bennett - July 12, 2013 - 12:38 pm

I just saw this update. Made me cry. Stay strong. We are praying for you & your family! xo

tawni - July 12, 2013 - 9:09 am

continue the positive attitude. there is always a plan, you will see. thinking & praying for you

Alana Sand - July 12, 2013 - 3:41 am

Stay strong pretty lady!! Prayin’ for ya!

Stephanie cademartori - July 12, 2013 - 3:04 am

I’m a new to matilda Jane πŸ™‚ everytime I dress my little girl in your designs I’m reminded to pray for you!
Thank you for sharing!

Kristi Mangan - July 11, 2013 - 11:53 pm

continuing to send you positive vibes Denise!

Z - July 11, 2013 - 11:36 pm

“You plan, and God plans, and verily God is the best of planners.”

While the entry is a tough read, you are in my prayers. Prayers for patience, for understanding, and for healing.

Much love, z

Geralyn Hagenbush - July 11, 2013 - 10:38 pm

Dear Denise,
Special daily thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Your husband taught my kids at Canterbury High School. You can beat this! Keep the faith and positive attitude! By the way, your Matilda Jane line is absolutely the best!!

Gretchen - July 11, 2013 - 10:01 pm

Denise – we love you! We are praying for you and your continued strength & healing! Kick this cancer’s butt!

Carli Karluk - July 11, 2013 - 9:56 pm

Praying for quick recovery and strength for every obstacle! You can do this!

Keeley Green - July 11, 2013 - 9:53 pm

Positive thoughts and prayers are sent your way from Texas! My friend and I just attended our 1st Art Fair and it was such a neat experience, we were in awe and inspired by all that you have created!

Angie Powers - July 11, 2013 - 9:30 pm

We are lifting you up to our Almighty powerful God!!! You are so strong and such an inspiration! (((HUGS)))!

Lauren N. - July 11, 2013 - 9:25 pm

Sometimes those detours are true blessings in disguise for one reason or another! Continuing to pray for your healing and comfort through this next phase! xoxo

KarenK - July 11, 2013 - 8:46 pm

There are just no suitable words, Denise. ((((HUG))))

Meredith - July 11, 2013 - 8:40 pm

Healing thoughts for you daily…….and bless you for continuing to open yourself up to us – SO many prayers out there for you & your family! You are not fighting this alone!!!!!!!!

Sam - July 11, 2013 - 8:35 pm

Praying for you. It is a “new” life and takes some getting used to the “new shoes” needs to walk through it.
I admire your strength and openness.
(In my area we have a holistic doctor that helps work together with medical treatment to build up your body…it’s really strengthening for body and mind…maybe someone local to you can do the same things)

Jennifer Paganelli - July 11, 2013 - 8:23 pm

Although we have never met i am so inspired by your genius and now your wonderful generous warmth. You really have touched me with your spirit and your beautiful photos. I will be following your healing and know that God works amazing miracles every day. All my love, Jennifer

Alison - July 11, 2013 - 8:20 pm

I pray for you daily, thank you for your vulnerability, honesty, and transparency. What other maker of children’s clothing is so personal and real? I absolutely am in love with MJC and have been since I discovered it. God Bless you. Today and everyday. Hugs. πŸ™‚

Brandi p - July 11, 2013 - 8:13 pm

Hey Denise,
I got to hug just about everybody at art fair except you and Carrie. I soo just want to give you a hug right now. It’s what I do :). Know that you have an amazing community of mj women that are praying for you and love you dearly. Stay strong.. MJ Strong πŸ™‚

Pamela M. - July 11, 2013 - 7:37 pm

Hi Denise – SO GREAT to see you blog….don’t give up on M.D. Anderson in TX…they are an amazing facility and will be ready for you when you get there. I am sure Franklin has been loving on you – the unconditional love and loyalty of a dog is the best therapy. Remember to – “live well, love much, and laugh often”. I don’t know who said it, but it is a great quote. πŸ™‚

Erin R - July 11, 2013 - 7:33 pm

Praying for peace and strength for you! Much love to you and your family ❀

Ashley lindler - July 11, 2013 - 7:26 pm

Sending love, hugs & prayers from SC.

Brea - July 11, 2013 - 7:22 pm

I hate that you have this speed bump before you can get to TX, but I know you are going to do amazing with your treatment there. I’m with you, I love watching gross junk like that. I used to work at an urgent care and I loved watching them drain those suckers. The doctor would come get me when he had one as he knew I was fascinated. Gross but so cool. Hopefully you are on the mend soon and I am praying for you!

Ida - July 11, 2013 - 7:17 pm

Love hearing from you Denise! You always make me laugh! All of heaven’s blessing upon you sweet soul! Love You!

Kari - July 11, 2013 - 6:52 pm

Attitude makes all the difference in the world!!! I’m a 3yr breast cancer survivor. With four kids! Stay strong!

Stephanie O'Connor - July 11, 2013 - 6:37 pm

I am in total amazement by you! xoxo

Maria Bellot - July 11, 2013 - 6:32 pm

oh Denise! I am so sorry for this but so glad they found the abscess. Myself & my church continue to pray for you & a complete healing. You have the most amazing attitude. Stay strong! Thank you for keeping us posted

Brittney - July 11, 2013 - 6:12 pm

Many many thoughts and prayers continue to come your way, Denise! You are so strong and I love reading your thoughts here. Thank you for sharing, and keep on keeping strong!! πŸ™‚

Marcy Schneider Hoffman - July 11, 2013 - 6:00 pm

I love your posts, Denise! I have been thinking of you every day and wondering how you are. You are so courageous! Many prayers are being said for you and positive, healing energy sent your way!

bridgette - July 11, 2013 - 5:57 pm

I so changing your nickname from Oprah to Wonder Woman! Hope you are feeling better soon.

Tammy D - July 11, 2013 - 5:53 pm

Denise your a rock star! And an inspiration to many πŸ™‚

Paloma Quintana - July 11, 2013 - 5:50 pm

Dear Denisse,
You’re a great warrior!! God will help you I know it for sure. We have you in our daily prayers, in our church they have this basket that every Tuesday is filled with the names our beloved ones that are sick to especially pray for them to get them fully recovered, we had too many miracles lately, you name is already there. You are a part of our family, part of our best holidays and pictures. Sending you a lot of love , hugs and kisses from Mexico.

Paloma Quintana

Mama Hope - July 11, 2013 - 5:45 pm

“If you’ve never had an abscess drained from your stomach … It is so cool'” Said no one ever! No wait, Denise DeMarchis did! I’ll take your word for it. Yes, the doc thinks you were a nut! But he/she prob laughed out loud like I did. What I hope is that you continue to be amazed and think it’s all a cool experience! A lot of it will be!! You are gonna see the sights of your life at MDA – the children will shatter your heart. And the older people. Well, everybody, actually. But you will love the strength and the love and the stories! You will. Oh, you should go back and read the blog contest about uses for the mesh bag! I was a winner with my use – I have distributed treat bags for years at Children’s Hospitals and Cancer Centers – MDA was one of my places!!

Jenn Meyer - July 11, 2013 - 5:31 pm

Denise – I don’t know you, but we have a mutual friend. Whenever she speaks of you or your company, she lights up. She has so much love for you and I know that she is not alone. I wish you peace, strength and courage. It seems like you have amazing friends and family by your side. Prayers to you on your journey.

Gran - July 11, 2013 - 5:28 pm

Denise, I so love how you can find interest and “coolness” in so many things……including having an abscess drained. You are amazing and you are many other wonderful things. And you are “blanketed with love and prayers”. Waiting to hear how to pray specifically for treatment.
Such a beautiful Kayla. Those must be the lights she and Sam strung.
Love you!

brandi c - July 11, 2013 - 5:17 pm

Sending prayers and happy thoughts to you Denise. It will be a tough journey, but you have an awesome attitude and that makes a world of difference! You’ve got this!

Sabrina - July 11, 2013 - 5:16 pm

May God bless you and your family.

Jennifer Raymond - July 11, 2013 - 5:12 pm

You are a strong lady! You’ve got this! As a nurse I know that a positive attitude makes all the difference in your recovery!

Tiffany - July 11, 2013 - 5:12 pm

Oh Denise. My thoughts and prayers are with you as each time I read your writings lately it puts me in tears. My mom passed from breast cancer and so your story is holding a super special place in my heart right now. You are so strong. I look forward to your next blog and the one after that and the one after that. Lots of love <3

Brenda Bell - July 11, 2013 - 5:11 pm

My thoughts are with you and your family. You sound like a very strong person, so I know that you will take this head on and beat it <3 Tons of love.

Danielle Broussard - July 11, 2013 - 5:08 pm

LOVE when you blog denise, always thinking about you and hope your treatment in house goes well. Love your positivity!!!! LOVING all the sneaks of fall and can’t wait to see more!!!!!!! SO EXCITED FOR AUG 1ST!!!!!!

Jennifer Phillips - July 11, 2013 - 5:07 pm

Please don’t publish this to the blog, but I just wanted to reach out to Denise with thoughts and prayers for the most speedy and pain-free recovery possible. And, that aside, I wanted to share this little nugget. Perhaps consider contacting this group to see about arranging medical transportation. If I understand it right, they arranged private no- or little-cost custom medical transport. No more airport hassle. No more delays, or changes, or other STRESS that you don’t need right now. Praying that you have everything you need surrounding you right now. Jennifer


JennyM - July 11, 2013 - 5:05 pm

Sending positive thoughts your way….!

Katie - July 11, 2013 - 5:04 pm

I spy THE Kayla! Rock it girl!!! Glad you’re on the men’s Denise! I pray for you daily! Hugs!

Rhonda - July 11, 2013 - 5:00 pm

We love you, Wonder Woman!!! xoxox