I was so inspired this week by so many of the articles in The Sandbucket magazine (all about Moms) that hit stands on Tuesday. But one in particular pulled at my heart strings so much it scored my soul. It was an article by Melody Ross on being aware of the “signs” people show that maybe life is a struggle, or they’re down on their luck, or worst of all there is illness in the family. Hers was a heart wrenching story that taught the value of being gentle with one another. Watch for “signs” that maybe they could use a helping hand or just a kind word. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all wear a sign around our necks letting the world know we need a gentle touch, that we don’t need to be judged for our abnormal behavior. If there’s one thing I know about women, it’s that every last one of us is amazing. It’s so easy to forget how beautiful we are, how much we give, but even more than that is how much we LOVE. Let’s love one another this week. Let’s forgive quickly and listen more intently. There is nothing like the love of a friend lifting us up in a time of need. Women supporting women.
With that said, let me introduce you to another incredible Mother who is doing her best and making a difference in her daughter’s life. Miss Dawn Stevens has a full plate but makes it all work and takes it all in stride. Not to mention, she has a BEAUTIFUL family. Welcome, welcome Dawn!!
Q: First off, we always want to know your basic info.
A: My name is Dawn Stevens, I’m 33 and I live in League City, TX (that’s just outside of Houston). My husband and I moved here about ten years ago from San Angelo, TX for his job. We’ve been married almost 13 years; have a beautiful 6 year-old daughter named Reagan and a dog named Abbey.
Q: Have you always known you’ve wanted to be a Mom?
A: Of Course!! I used to play house with my childhood friends, and I always wanted to be the “mom”. I like to be in charge! LOL!! But seriously, when Toby and I were dating we would talk about having children often.
Q: What do you love most about the job?
A: Oh I love so much…the hugs & kisses, the “I love you Mommy!”, “You are the best mom in the whole world!”, the girl time we share. We love getting pedicures together (you must start them young! Ha!). It doesn’t happen much anymore, but I miss being the only person she wanted…I loved that!
Q: What is the hardest part about being a Mother?
A: Probably feeling like I’m not there for her enough and letting her down as a mother. I work outside of the home, and it’s hard to know if I’m doing the right thing. This is the most important job…you just can’t mess it up!
Q: We all want our children to cherish their childhood, but what do you really want yours to remember fondly? Reading, cuddling, your cooking, etc.?
A: My cooking! HA, just kidding…I’m a horrible cook! I would have to say I want her to remember the time we spend together and the fun we have (although we do love to cuddle up on the couch together). I want her to look back and know that I loved her and that I did the best I could.
Q: How do you teach your daughter to have a giving heart?
A: We try to instill in Reagan God’s love and how He wants us to help others that are less fortunate than we are. One of our favorite Christmas traditions is taking part in Franklin Graham’s “Operation Christmas Child”. Basically you fill shoeboxes up with all sorts of goodies which are then shipped all over the world to children in need with a booklet explaining the love of Jesus in their own language. We love watching Reagan shop for these items, as she is so thoughtful in what she picks for each box.
Another thing (that I stole from my friend Michelle) I tell Reagan is, “Be a friend to someone today.” There is always a kid at school that is being picked on or excluded for some reason that could use a friend.
Q: What are your thoughts on spanking?
A: My husband and I believe that spanking is a part of discipline but not the only way. We do spank our daughter on occasion, but we always explain to her why she is being punished. We try to make her understand we discipline her because we love her. Now please don’t take that the wrong way, there is a huge difference between a spanking and a beating. Oh boy, hope I don’t get hate mail for that answer!
Q: If you could have or do ANYTHING this Mother’s Day, what would it be? Dream big!
A: Hmmm…that’s a tough one! We love to spend time on or near the water, so how about an afternoon on a tropical beach somewhere?!?
Q: What is YOUR Mother’s best quality?
A: Wow, do I have to pick just one? She has the sweetest, friendliest spirit. Everyone just loves her and she NEVER meets a stranger. Ha, not sure if that last one is a quality…just amazing! She would do anything for you without expecting anything in return.
Love you Mom…Happy Mother’s Day!!
Q: What is the most valuable lesson you learned from her?
A: To have a loving heart, treat others as you would want to be treated and how to be a Godly woman.
Q: Who is your favorite TV Mom? Why?
A: Claire Huxtable from “The Cosby Show”. She was a career woman that always found time for her family, and she tried to instill good moral character into her children.
Q: If you could keep your Reagan at any age, which would it be and why?
A: I have loved every age! It’s wonderful to watch her grow and learn and to see the amazement in her eyes when she discovers something new. Every age brings new and exciting adventures. Although I would cherish holding my sweet “baby Rea” one more time.
Q: What is the best part of your day as a Mom?
A: I really love the little bit of time we get to share in the afternoons before my husband gets home. I have her all to myself! We catch up on each other’s day, have a snack, watch TV…just unwind together.
Q: How do you keep sane with everything on your plate? Home, work, kids etc. How do you keep it balanced?
A: I’m sure our readers would love to know. Well, to be honest, I’m not sure how qualified I am to answer this one. I feel like this is the area I lack the most in. I have a “real job” too, so I constantly struggle with balance. I’ve already mentioned my cooking skills…and my housekeeping is even worse. If something has to be ignored, cleaning is the best option, right?
Fortunately I have a great boss that recognizes my need to be a mother too and lets me take off as needed. That helps with my Room Mom duties, surprise “Flash Sales” and other mommy things.
Q: When you think of incredible moms you know, what is the one quality that really stands out in each of them?
A: Patience, understanding, love, Godly wisdom…
I know that wasn’t one thing…too hard to pick just one, those qualities are all-encompassing.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you MJ mamas out there. Don’t forget to celebrate YOU and everything you DO. Oh and because I’m feeling kinda sappy today, leave me a comment on one of your best qualities as a mom. We need to start “owning” what we do and treasure it. Let’s see who’s brave enough to “toot their own horn.”
There will be a special something for a special mama!